This past weekend my lovely college friend was visiting me. We’ve been friends for 30 years now. It was a very healing visit. She was here to heal from a broken heart combined with exhaustion from caring for an aging parent. I am continually seeking to heal from the loss of my boys and aContinue reading “On Healing”
Category Archives: divorce
How to Recognize Parent-Child Alienation
I have been seeing a lot that suicide prevention is for year round not just one month of the year. Having lost two sons to suicide, I subscribe to this. Alongside this, I think about child-parent alienation and how it can be a factor in suicide. There is no evidence that it is a directContinue reading “How to Recognize Parent-Child Alienation”
A Tale of Child Estrangement
Likely you are reading this because you are possibly experiencing it. I’m not sure who would research the subject otherwise. In fact, I certainly did not know of this situation before experiencing it. It might be something you think occurs in extremely dysfunctional families, those other people…until it h happens to you. Child estrangement, sometimesContinue reading “A Tale of Child Estrangement”
Home
I met with my accountant recently and she was speaking about the importance of preserving my home and never leveraging the equity. She described it as the little nest for my kids and I. I liked that description. Home came up again in a morning yoga class my daughter and I attended. The instructor describedContinue reading “Home”
Understanding Parental Alienation and Its Impact on Children
Few experiences are more painful for a child than feeling that they have lost a parent who is still alive. After separation or divorce, children may sometimes become resistant to or fearful of one parent for legitimate reasons. But in some families, a child’s relationship with a parent deteriorates in the context of persistent hostility,Continue reading “Understanding Parental Alienation and Its Impact on Children”
The Narcissist Does Not Want to Let You Go
Tonight I made a dinner that I used to make early in my marriage. That marriage ended 20 years after it began and it has been officially over for nearly 8 years. In those 8 years I have learned much through reflection and study. When I divorced I had never heard about narcissism but asContinue reading “The Narcissist Does Not Want to Let You Go”
The Absolute Horror of Coparenting with a Narcissist
The challenge of co-parenting is multiplied with a narcissist involved.
My Request for Help and a Response That Will Blow Your Mind
I want to add some more context to try to support others going through this. Today I want to share some email from a “flying monkey” which is a colloquial term for those who support the narcissist despite their devious deeds. Let me lay the groundwork in case you have not read previous or earlierContinue reading “My Request for Help and a Response That Will Blow Your Mind”
On Betrayal: Navigating the Unimaginable with your “Coparent”
My young daughter was so sick for 36 hours, in bed with fever. I feared maybe she even had measles which is said to be going around. I texted her father (we have been divorced almost 8 years now and he lives less than a mile away) about her condition and that she had missedContinue reading “On Betrayal: Navigating the Unimaginable with your “Coparent””
Real Stories: Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex
This is a real life example of what it can look like when a narcissist gains equal parenting time. He will demand equal parenting time even though he has never before taken the children to the doctor (and probably doesn’t even know who the doctor is), dealt with the schools or made them their dailyContinue reading “Real Stories: Parenting with a Narcissistic Ex”
