If you thought the narcissist was bad while you were together (looking back since you did not see it then), calling you crazy, “forgetting” he or she said things, accusing you of an affair in front of your children after you go out fir drinks with colleagues (never mind his weekend “team building” over the top corporate events), reading your diary, searching your drawers, refusing to respect privacy, and causing a general unpredictable environment where things could up of be great one moment and escalate to apocalyptic fights the next…well, all I can say is, get ready for when you leave and especially when you learn to stay calm and appear unaffected. The following are personally experienced possible occurrences.
He will leave his phone behind while you attend a family function together which someone will give you to take to him (Do Not Take It!) and he will send the police to your door claiming you stole it. He will use one of your children’s phones that you pay for to call them and tell your children this lie.
He will make up abundant lies about you to tell your children and others. You will constantly wage a war of truth. You will have constant fact checking meetings with your children to make sure they understand the truth.
You or your children will make simple requests, to assemble a bicycle for example, and his girlfriend (or boyfriend) will tell him or her that this is an outrageous request and he will refuse.
He …or she…will do Everything in his power to disparage you, and will attempt (and succeed sometimes) to separate your children from you, isolate them, and reprogram them.
Notes From Real Life 